In recent years, there has been an ever increasing focus on psychological and psychological health, and this can be viewed as a fantastic thing. For so long, this was something that was brushed under the carpet.
Nowadays, this is something that’s spoken about in the media and people talk openly about what is going on for them on social networking. So, as there is less pressure on people to hide how they feel and to look as though they have it all together, it is a lot easier for someone to open up and to share what’s going on for them.
If somebody is in a bad way, and they decide to reach out for support, there are help lines, counsellors and different kinds of medications available. Butsimply expressing what’s going on to them to a friend or a family member, for instance, could be more than sufficient.
This is why it is so important for a person to open up and to share their load, so to speak, with others.
A Cultural Flaw
This is something that can become perfectly clear when someone isn’t in a good way and has to open up to another individual.
Nevertheless, if somebody has been conditioned to believe that they’re independent and that they ought to do everything by themselves, they may end up feeling weak for needing assistance. Luckily, this conditioning will not have been strong enough to stop them from reaching out.
Someone like this may have ended up in a terrible way lately, or they might have been this way for a very long time. When it comes to the former, they may have soon realised that something was not right and hunted hep soon after.
On the other hand, in regards to the latter, they may have gradually become used to what was going on for them. This, together with the shame that they experienced through having problems, may have been what caused them to suffer in silence for so long.
A Big Factor
This illiterates is how strong shame is, and how it can cause a person to become their own prisoner. With too much shame, someone’s chief aim will be to protect their own image and to make sure they are not ostracised.
It then won’t matter if they have mental and emotional problem because their need to protect themselves will take precedence.
Its Black and White
However, no matter whether someone has been able to reach out after suffering for years or just suffered for some time, it will be evident that they wanted to change their life. Someone could have fought a long battle with themselves or it might have been a really short encounter.
Shame is then something that has the capability to hold someone back, yet it’s not necessarily something which will cause someone to fully surrender to their distress and to take it. At the same time, just because someone is consciously resisting what’s going on for them; it does not mean that another part of them does not feel comfortable with it.
Out or hidden In The open
What this signifies is that a small part of them will want to change their life but an even bigger part of them will have begun to feel comfortable with anguish. This may sound like a ludicrous idea, particularly if a person is not familiar with the nature of the subconscious mind.
Therefore, irrespective of whether someone is suffering in silence or reaching out for assistance, they can still have a strong attachment to their pain. Due to how long they’ve been this way for, this pain can be a large part of the identity.
Someone can then be in lots of pain and also reach out to others, creating the impression that they wish to change their life, but another part of them will not want their life to change. What this comes down to is that the subconscious mind partners what’s familiar with what is safe, meaning that it doesn’t care about if something is healthy or feels good.
For example, somebody could be used to feeling down, powerless, hopeless, helpless or worthless, and feeling this way might be what feels comfortable at a deeper level. Additionally, through feeling this way for so long, it could play a big part in how they see themselves.
With this understanding, someone will be able to look into what is taking place at a deeper level, to work through it, and to adopt their inherent power and value. Without this understanding, someone can wind up feeling like a victim.
It will then be as though they want to change but something (or somebody ) is holding them back. How they feel as an adult might match up with how they felt throughout their childhood years, which might mean they don’t know what it is like to experience life differently.